How a Woman Self-destructs

*Firstly –she is in a constant mental game of comparison with every other woman. This is the main source of her unhappiness. It is a fount of inadequacy and jealousy or of pride and self-aggrandizement. *She takes the good and human desire to be loved and turns it into a pressured battlefield. She feels she can only really deserve and attain this ‘love’ by behaving perfectly, looking perfect and achieving ‘perfection’ in various areas of her life. She overworks herself to this end. *She deeply internalises criticism, expectations, disapproval, rejection and ill treatment from others. She forgets that trying to please people is not only none of her business, it is nigh impossible. *She is also ruled by her cruel inner-critic. She fails to drown out its voice until it becomes so loud, it drives her to oft depression. *She cannot be content to be a queen who reigns alone. She lives an ardent search for the ‘Prince Charming’ she has always been taught will complete her. *She joins in the Western worship of the false idol of thinness. She religiously follows the doctrine that to be very waifish is to be desirable, happy and accepted. She sabotages her body and well-being in many faddish ways to achieve the heights of this cruel religion. *She blames herself when the long awaited ‘Prince Charming’ begins to forget to recognise her queen-ship. She trusts popular culture magazines as they inform her that her primary female social role is to be ‘sexy.’ Like Kim Kardashian. *She obsesses over what she sees as her physical ‘flaws and imperfections’. She spends great and on-going efforts to make her visage and body conform. Her body is her primary focus. Not her soul. *She forgets that being desired, being loved and being valued are three separate states. She is drunken by the former instead of expecting and demanding the latter.