Handling Rejection

Dealing with rejection

Oh No! You’ve been turned down for that job you were convinced you were so made for / that pretty/handsome young thing you really liked has kicked you to the proverbial pavement/ the clique you wanted to be a part of has squeezed you out of their lives like an ill-fated whitehead/ etc etc.
Diddums.
We all face ‘rejections’ in one form or another. It’s an inevitable part of the troublesome conundrum that is life. If you find you deal with it particularly badly, here are several truths for you to swallow; they might help numb the pain, yet are free and a whole heap healthier than Prozac Jack

i) Firstly, if the person who has snatched this dream away from you for the moment has also succeeded in making you doubt yourself and damaging your self-esteem/ ego/ confidence (this means) your self-esteem/ego/ confidence was probably fragile in the first place. Fix this. OK? Done…

The reason it’s called SELF-esteem and SELF confidence is because you don’t give anyone the power to affect it, except for….your SELF. Duh. Geddit? OK. Done.


ii) How are you going to give someone who has only seen a small snapshot of you the power to make you feel like a loser. You loser! (Sorry). YOU know ‘you’ and all the great things about you, so don’t let this one hiccup in your life’s journey make you forget those things. The person/ company/ silly boob who let you go hasn’t made a negative assessment of you as a person- because they don’t fully and completely know you as a person. This means you should not be taking their judgment of you too deeply. After a ‘failure’ we tend to focus on failure. Re-organise your thinking and write a mental list of all the many, many things that are GREAT about YOU to focus on instead. Hurrah!

iii) Of course I’m not assuming everyone reading this will be approval-dependant saps. I’m sure many of us aren’t. The reason you are so cut up about the rejection is because you really, really wanted the thing that you were going after. But maybe you wanted it with an inordinate desire that transcends time and seas and existential sense and ….sorry I’m getting all poetic on your hyneez. But yes, maybe you were so driven on that thing and you shouldn’t have been, because you lost all flexibility (-which you need in this unpredictable life) and balanced perspective.
The maze of your life’s path (-am I being too deep again?) doesn’t come with a Sat Nav and sometimes we genuinely don’t know what is best, until we’ve got things we thought we wanted, and it eventually becomes apparent they were not good for us to have in the first place.
Basically, I know you thought you wanted it, but maybe life is doing you a favour by not giving it to you. In the short-sightedness that often accompanies the earnest desires of youth, you just haven’t realised this yet.


iv) …The other side to this coin is that the thing you wanted is meant for you…just NOT YET. This means the rejection has been good for you…yes- GOOD!
“But why, Retty. Why?” –I hear you ask…
Because this rejection hasn’t killed you, it has made you stronger. So you will build strength of character and determination. It means the next time round, when you get a second, third or fourth chance to get that thing, you will not only be more prepared to receive it, you will appreciate it more, because of the journey traversed on the way to grasping it. And because you’ve valued and held on to the dream through difficulty- you’ll be more worthy of it.

Many celebrated people today had to face much rejection before getting to the admirable place they are now at.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of FAITH and PATIENCE.

Consider this sad account;
“Coping with rejection and apparent failure is a serious matter. The tragic death of John Kennedy Toole screams this truth at anyone lucky enough to need an explanation. No publisher would touch Toole’s book. In a vain attempt to kill the pain, he suicided. Posthumously, his book was published. It won the 1980 Pulitzer Prize for fiction.”
(From net-burst.net/hot/cope)


So pick yourself up. Dust yourself off.
Tomorrow is a new day, kiddo. Don’t take yourself or the things of this life too seriously.



N.B. God loves you.
I’m outty
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.